--- title: 8 Happiness Sappers to Avoid NOW description: Eliminate the happiness sappers that get in your way of the joy you were born to experience. image: https://blog.housefairy.org/hs-fs/hub/341571/file-1808730683.jpg --- Hello, Friend[Access Your Account](https://www.housefairy.org/my-account) ### Happy Kids,  Happier Moms [![facebook](https://blog.housefairy.org/hs-fs/file-422096398-png/social_buttons/facebook.png "facebook")](http://www.facebook.com/therealhousefairy) [![twitter](https://blog.housefairy.org/hs-fs/file-426374790-png/social_buttons/twitter.png "twitter")](https://twitter.com/HouseFairyPam) [![pinterest](https://blog.housefairy.org/hs-fs/file-426359165-png/social_buttons/pinterest.png "pinterest")](http://www.pinterest.com/thehousefairy/) [![youtube](https://blog.housefairy.org/hs-fs/file-426364010-png/social_buttons/youtube.png "youtube")](http://www.youtube.com/user/MakeItFunVideo/featured) [The House Fairy](https://www.housefairy.org/) ## [8 Happiness Sappers to Avoid NOW](https://blog.housefairy.org/8-happiness-sappers-to-avoid-now) October is such a beautiful month and in order to fully enjoy it, you might want to eliminate the happiness sappers that get in your way of the joy you were born to experience. 1. **New**s: News is just official gossip. My definition of an investigative reporter is: an authorized, nosey gossip. I stopped watching or listening to the news after 9/11. I figure Terry, who was a television reporter, will inform me if I need to pack up and head for the hills. 2. **Gossip**: Since I’ve cut out the official gossip, why would I want to indulge in any unofficial info?   3. **Calendar that’s too small**: A big happiness sapper is having a calendar that’s so small you can’t read your personal shorthand. “3pmTk grm Dr. rmb t tk nts.” A month later when you're trying to figure out what the heck you’re supposed to be doing on that day, chances are you’ll never figure out you’re supposed to take Grandma to the doctor and you need to take notes. Say goodbye to little squared happiness sappers. **4. Eating too much**: What else can I say, except *especially* eating foods high in carbohydrates? When Terry and I switched to a low-carb, high fat diet four years ago, one of the positive effects was that my level of happiness went way up! It was probably mainly because I was no longer hungry…ever. 5. **Tardiness**: Not fun. My days of putting on make-up at red traffic lights and racing to my destination with not enough time, are over. I read somewhere, “Punctuality is honoring someone else’s time.” When you stop focusing on the time you are supposed to be somewhere and instead focus on the time you should leave to get to the event on time, you will be punctual. **6. Unbalanced checkbook**: Guessing what’s in your account leads to overdrafts and overdrafts lead to bad credit and bad credit, well I don’t have to tell you where that leads. If you don’t know what your balance is, maybe it’s time to use cash. At least when it’s gone, you’ll know it. Keeping a current balance in your checking account will save you grief that can sap your joy. **7. Over-goaling**: If you want to stop over-goaling, tape up a sign on your desk, that says, “Say NO!”  8. **Sleep deprivation**: Get your rest. Set a bedtime that gives you the amount of sleep you need and make it a habit. The computer is one of the biggest sleep thieves you own. Don’t let it turn into a depriving machine. If October is one of your most favorite months of the year, zap those happiness sappers, and get outside and enjoy this glorious month. The beautiful leaves have so much to tell us. *“Hi, I’m here to remind you that life is eternal and beautiful and we can always turn over a new leaf. Even though I may look like I’m through, I’m just changing energy forms. My mom (tree) is also going to look like she croaked, but you and I know it’s an illusion. Next spring she’ll be back to play in the breeze and be the most beautiful tree she can be. For now my work is to protect the nursery from the coming winter’s snow and harshness, unless, of course, you want to use me as part of a centerpiece on your table.”* Speaking of centerpieces, in October, I like to pretend I’m driving through a huge centerpiece on some giant’s dining room table. My husband and I love to take at least one day trip around our beautiful state of Washington to get a centerpiece fix for the year.   Be sure to get a centerpiece drive on your calendar while the leaves are gorgeous or you’ll miss out. When I got organized, one of my intentions was to get the leaves on the calendar as well as “pick wild blackberries,” “build a snowman,” “swim in the river” and “play in the dirt.” I found during those busy child rearing years if I didn’t get those kinds of activities on my calendar I’d miss out on a lot of joy. By taking a serious look at those behaviors that sap our happiness and insisting on enjoying the on-going, ever changing miracle of this life we are privileged to have, we can up our happiness quotient HQ. Now that you’ve finished this essay, do NOT write on one of those little squares of your soon-to-be-replaced calendar: Dr thru lvs prten in giant cnterpc. Oh, one more happiness sapper is clutter! 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